WOMEN LOVE YOU IN HARRINGTON JACKETS

Here’s why this light-weight jacket should be your wardrobe wingman

Why should I wear It?

The perfect multitasking light-weight jacket, you can dress your Harrington to suit pretty much any occasion and any place in the country. It is the one layer that works in our tropical climate—be it for a holiday in the hills or an evening out in the city in spring. With clever layering, you can wear it from the early autumn months of September-October till the late spring month of March. Invest now and you’ll reap style dividends for many years to come.

How do I wear It?

The fit is vital. Aim for slim, but not too tight, to give you a leaner silhouette. The waistband must sit on your belt; above and it’s too small, hanging below and you need to drop a size. The cuffs should finish on the wrist, not above or below. Fabric covered waistbands and cuffs lock more sophisticated: Go for button pockets over peppers and a tartan or houndstocth lining; they’re original features and add a touch of flair.

Why should I avoid?

Garish patterns for one. Black, navy or beige versions suit everyone and never date. For colour, choose a shade that complements your skin tone. Red is a perennial winner for darker complexions, but can be tricky for some colourings. A lighter blue can flatter paler complexions. Never put bulky wallets in Harrington pockets—the bulge tends to show like a six-month pregnancy. Do choose ICC per cent cotton versions, as cheaper synthetics will make you sweat—and a cheap sweaty date usually means a last date.

Where should I buy it?

If you’re strapped for cash this month, opt for some brilliant patterns and colours available at Zara Man, Esprit and United Oolors of Benetton (2,OOC to ?4,000). But if you have the moolah to blow, visit Armani, Versace or Just Oavalli (1O,CCO to 25,OOO). Stuck in between? Tommy -lilfiger, S. Oliver and Lacoste are the places for you! (?5,000 to 9,000)

Wit and charm are no longer enough in the seduction stakes. Learn how to employ the spellbinding techniques of neuro-linguistic programming to maximise your allure

01. Win a date with her

The science Forgetthe old ‘look into my eyes’ schtick— there are easier and more effective ways to place her under your spell. Harvard University studies found that hidden commands— essentially manipulative instructions or orders that are perceived as innocuous statements—bypass her brain’s critical response filter and covertly instruct her subconscious. It’s like wheeling your very own Trojan horse into her head.

02.Show her you’re her ideal man

The science Decoding her poker face is easier than you might think. Studies by the Social Issues Research Centre in Oxford proved that while it’s possible to control your words and facial expressions, your real thoughts will slip out via ‘unconscious leakage’,such as secondary body language and key phrases.

03. Arouse her with a click of your fingers

The trick Anchoring
The science According to the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, ‘anchoring is the act of linking stimuli to a positive emotion. \ Once her brain has linked the stimuli and the emotion, you can triggerthe desired effect whenever you want.

04. Build a trusting “relationship”

The science Both language and nonverbal communication can lend itself to uncertainty and misinterpretation. In the ‘50s, American philosopher and linguist, Noam Chomsky, argued that in order to understand what people mean by their words or actions, the brain has to make quick assumptions. You have roughly half a second to decide what is meant before responding. That half second is your opportunity and, as in a penalty box, can make all the difference to tbetinal result.

05. Take her home The trick

The science The late, pioneering US hypnotherapist Dr Milton Erickson is considered by many to be the father of time distortion. The idea that the subconscious can be mainlined to any point in the subject’s lifetime, pastor present, is especially useful when attempting to break down a lady’s barriers, says Dr Richard Bandier, co-creator of  NLP Simply take her to an imaginary point in time and make her feel good about the ‘memory’.

Ace a speech

Win over the crowd and keep your nerve with these golden rules of public speaking

Addressing a roomful of people can be one daunting task. Here are five tips to make you sound like the perfect orator.

1. Find form Make your notes big enough to read at a glance and try listing three things in a row. Write the words in capitals and different colours so you’re given an instant memory trigger. Don’t be afraid of repeating your key point several times—people will remember those words.

2. Get preppy

Think you’re slick? “Rehearse it again—at least six times, especially memorable quotes and people references,” says Chhaya Momaya, life coach and grooming consultant. Reality can do with a polish. Tape yourself as you perform it to a friend, then play it back to see the problems areas.

3. Air time “As a rule, keep anecdotes to no more than a minute—if it takes any longer than that you’ll lose your audience’s attention” says Momaya. Pause for a second at the end of each point you make. This is the single best way to eliminate umming and aahing as it lends a real sense of control: everyone will be hanging on your next word.

4. Don’t crack up
To avoid your voice breaking into a falsetto, try humming for afull minute before you start your speech. You hum at your natural speaking pitch, so it brings your voice to a natural level.

5. Spit it out

Eat an apple before you speak. Nerves can dry your mouth, but the acidity in a tart fruit stimulates saliva production, keeping your talk crisp and fluid. Conversely, skip the coffee (caffeine dries out your mouth fast and will make you jittery) and stay away from milk, dahi and ice-cream— dairy produqts turn saliva as thick as soup.

1. Show up early for meetings

Get there before him, and look prepared by bringing a notebook, a cool pen, industry journals, or other props that suggest you know the subject inside and out. Be working’ when he arrives—even if you’re actually playing games on your PDA
—and insist that the meeting ends on time.

2.Initiate every hand shake

Again, this sends a subtle signal that you cecide when his interaction with you begins and ends. Make the shake strong and short, but don’t squeeze.

3. Stand closer

If your boss tends to stand three feet away when talking to you, go half a step closer. Hoid a pen or your glasses in front of you to maintain your comfort level. He may feel slightly awkward, but won’t know why.

4. Expose him

In his office, sit on a couch or chair that’s .inblocked by his desk—he’ll have no place hide. Also, put something (a PDA or file ‘older) between him and his phone to scut:e any escape. Ideally, you want a window cehind him; sit catty-corner so you’re not looking directly at it. Above all, don’t sit near a wall—you want his back against it. not yours.

5. Handle with care

Touching the man is risky (don’t even try this with a woman), but putting your hand on his shoulder can make a point.

6. Shut up

Silence is one of the most powerful manipulative tools. He’ll feel obliged to fill the uncomfortable voids with things like, “Sure, we’ll give you a bigger office.” Or a new secretary, or even just valet parking. It’s a start.

THE MEASURE OF A SUCCESSFUL DATE IS

usually the good-night kiss. And while we’re all for good-night kisses, if you want to really win her over, you have to think longer term: Will this experience create great memories for her?

An awesome date—the kind that stays lodged in her brain and makes her brag to her friends—pays major dividends. “One of the benefits of creating shared memories is that they can increase arousal all by themselves,” says Timothy Loving, Ph.D., an assistant professor in the department of human development and family sciences at the University of Texas at Austin.

In a 2009 study, Loving found that when women were asked to recall what they liked to do with their partners on dates, they showed increased physiological arousal, as evidenced by cortisol levels in their saliva. In other words, just thinking about last weekend’s great date can turn her on again. So we’ve lined up five dates guaranteed to make her gush. In addition to breaking the standard dinner-and-a-movie rut, each will help you bond in crucial ways. So follow our instructions, then grab your gal. Memories await.

The way to her heart might just be down an aerial rope slide. Originally designed for studying tropical rain forests, ziplines and canopy tours—which involve hiking up a mountain and then flinging yourself down an inclined cable in a harness at up to 65mph— have been popping up all over the country. (Find one near you at canopy-tours.com.) When it’s go time in the treetops, forget the ladies-first maxim and bravely offer to lead the way, explaining that you’ll be waiting to catch her at the bottom. You’ll be the first person she sees—and shares her adrenaline rush with—when she lands.

Bonding power You’ll benefit from the magic of a little notion social scientists call “excitation transfer.” Research shows that exciting or even scary activities have the power to boost romantic attraction between men and women who’ve just met. In such scenarios. we misattribute the reason for our thrill. “You think, ‘Why am I feeling this? Well, it must be that I’m with this exciting person: – says Arthur Aron, Ph.D., head of the Interpersonal Relationships Lab at SUNY Stony Brook University.

1 “I meant to…”  Translation: “I thought of you, and then immediately thought of something better.” It’s not always the thought that counts.

2 I’m sorry you feel that way.’ An apology doesn’t need to be long or repetitious. You just need to mean it, and to acknowledge that you were wrong—not that someone thought you were wrong.

3 I’m not here to make friends.” Reality-TV contestants say that to each other all the time. (Seriously. Search the phrase on YouTube.( Know when that attitude helps in the real world? Never.

4. “It’s a win-win.” T Say that and other peopleltear, “I win and you lose, butyou won’t realize that for another 2 weeks when I’m nowhere to be found, so in the end, I win twice.”

5. How much do l owe?” Long division is for the classroom, not the restaurant. Pick up the check once in a while and you won’t feel guilty when your friends dolt It all evens out.

6 Here’s what you should do.” Girls are right: You don’t have to fix every problem. Listening is its own form of help. So let her (or your buddy (vent, and offer direction only if they ask, “What should I do?”

7 Anything you scream over Live music. We’re not sure why you’re at the show if you’re not listening, but rest assured everyone else paid $100 to hear “Jungleland,” not whatyou had for dinner. And when you scream into somebody’s ear, it hurts.

8. “Cheers!” It’s like (3 a British car on U.S. roads: ill-fitting arid
dangerous.

9 “Oh, I know. That’s like when I..
When a person’s telling a story, this is not an invitation to break in with your own anecdote. Your pal has the floor. When it’s your turn, you’ll appreciate his silence.

10 That’s not what the rule says.” Yeah, we know: Games are based on rules. But don’t be the killjoy who busts your buddy for taking an extra half step before his layup. Give a little, and everyone has more fun.

11 “Can you help me move?” It’s fun to move friends into dorm rooms, not into real homes. If you have a job, come on: Pony up for movers. Then you can invite your friends overfora housewarming party. You’ll be amazed how much beer they’re happy to carry in themselves.

12 “I’m a good multitasker.” No, you’re not. Nobody is. And as you peck at your BlackBerry under the dinner table, everyone is silently offended. But at least whoever you’re writing is enjoying a lousy e-mail.

13. “When are you L Q) qoinq to stop talking?”Màybe you’re not sayingit out loud, but we can all see it on your unengaged face. If a conversation bores you, make it better by contributing.

14. “You’re wrong.” Healthy disagreement makes you an interesting guy to talk to. Dismissing someone’s idea entire1 makes you a radio yakker.

15 “Call you back later, okay?” Men have a hard enough time reach -:
out. When your friend says, “Hey, I need to talk,” he isn’t being casuaL He’s downplaying. And whatever else you’re doing can wait.

“Before you do anything, remove the spark plug so the mower doesn’t accidentally fire up while you’re working on it,” says Tom Shotzbarger, the president of the Lawn Care Association of Pennsylvania. Follow his tune-up drill’o make your mower start faster and run smoother,

1 Emptythefuet tank. Gasoline degrades as it ages, so drain any fuel left over from the pact season Replace the oil, too—microscopic contaminants can build up in the oil, mducing its viscosity and grind
-ig against the e”gine’s parts.

2 Lose the grime. L!e a degreaser on the engine housing to remove grin, which can contaminate the filters, fuel, and oil, Extreme Simple Green Motorsports Cleaner & Degreaser (simplegreen.com) is an eco-friendly option.

3 Let it breathe.

:stall a new airflow. The engine eeds clean air‘.D% to burn fuel :st efficiently,ses Shotzbarger, :‘srge the spark L.g too. It can ‘_m or wear tz’*m also causTC e engine to ‘ir efficiently.

4 Clearthe deck. Pry any caked-on grass from the underside of the deck using a putty knife, “If there’s too much stuck on there, it will interfere with the cutting,” says Shotzbarger.

5 Give it an edge. If the blade is bent or dinged, buy a replacement for $15 to $20 at a hardware store, If it’s just dull, take it toe lawn and garden center to have it sharpened. You’ll pay about half the price of a new one.

Build endurance for real life

A LITTLE SAVVY (A1 OCCASIONAL PREP) WILL MAKE EVERYDAY TEST OF STAMINA A BREEZE

The all-night pub crawl

Feeling sluggish? An energy drink wont help alco hol neutralizes almost all of its effects say researchers in Brazil, And rest yuur ears when possible. Highdecibel music may cause you to drink more beer and drink it faster than when the sounds are played at tower decibels, according to a 2006 French study.

The 4-hour concert, standing room only

If you feet faint, promote bloodflow and ward off light headed ness with a tip from Circulation: As you’re standing, cross one thigh over the other and then tense your leg abdominal and butt muscles for at least 30 seconds. And while you’re at it, encourage hot women to do the same.

lavish 7-course meal

Don’t skip lunch that day. ‘Fasting will just make you want to stuff yourself later,” says Ed “Cockle” Jarvis, a champion competitive eater, So eat normally before the event. Then, once you sit down
for the big meal, drink water throughout. Two Weunce glasses of water during dinner may boost your metabolism by 30 percent, according to a small study by German researchers. And watch your alcohol intake: If you drink about 13 ounces of wine with your meal, you may eat 22 per cent more than you otherwise would have, according to a study in Physiology & Behavior.

The 8-hour, no-stop road trip

Train your midsection.“Long rides can wear down your stability, That’s why you feel like you’re falling out of your seat,” says Indy 500 champ Sam Hornish Jr. “The stronger your core, the less fatigue you’ll feel.” In the weeks before you leave, do Russian twists: Lie faceup with your upper back on a Swiss ball, knees bent, and feet flat on the floor. Holding a medicine ball, extend your arms toward the ceiling and then twist your body to the side until your arms parallel the floor, Aim for 8 to 10 repetitions. Repeat on the opposite side,

The long retationship “talk”

Start with coffee or tea.

It’s endearing—and better yet a recent study found that people judged others as more generous and caring if they held a warm beverage, and less so if they held a cold one. She wants reassurance, souse the word “remember” often “Acknowledgment of your shared memory will show that you’re invested,” says Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D. author of Why Can’t You Read My Mind?

The excessively Long Layover

“Even if you’re not a member, the $50 airport- lounge visitors pass is worth it,” says Doug Stallings, senior editor at Fodor’s. The airline staff may be more willing to hear you there, so be kind and patient. If the delay is longer than 2 hours, call the airline, Some offer free upgrades or seats with other carriers.

The bikini effect

The Journal of Consumer Research reports that sexual urges make men crave quick rewards when they make decisions about money or food. Men who were given lingerie to fondle or shown videos of women running in bikinis tended to be content with a small immediate monetary
reward instead of a bigger one that involved waiting (and made similar decisions for candy and soda). Sexual stimuli snap our minds to the present, making fast rewards more appealing.

The aroma of amore

Women are sexually aroused by the scent of male sweat, say researchers at the University of California at Berkeley. When 48 female students watched an erotic video after sniffing androstadienone (a testosterone derivative in male sweat), they experienced a 200 per cent spike in arousal. Androstadienone also increased the levels of cortisol, a hormone that stimulates arousal, by almost 40 per cent.

LISTEN, SEXY

A woman’s voice sounds sexier when she’s at her peak of fertility, according to University at Albany researchers. When men listened to the voices of women at different points in their menstrual cycles, they rated the sound of women at peak fertility as most attractive. “Hormones throughout the menstrual cycle change the quality of a woman’s voice, possibly by altering the pitch,” says Nate Pipitone, PhD. Women are more receptive to sex at the same point in their cycles. If she seems irresistible, be condom-ready. Or it may be the perfect time for phone sex.

Train your memory and you’ll reap only satisfaction

1 Her mom’s birthday. Hell bath no fury like a woman with a mother-in- law scorned.

2.Her birthday. Hell hath no fury, no dinner and no sex with your better half sconerd.

3. Her time of the month. Surprise her with a basket filled with chocolates, jewellery or perfume and see which impresses her more. That or the roses she got an Valentine’s Day.

4 The edible kind. Sans poison, dates are low in calories (24) fat and cholesterol; full of fibre; and richer in potassium than bananas. Eat six or seven a day and shave points off your blood pressure while adding some snap to your bullwhip.

5 The date when you took her on a picnic instead of to a restaurant; to an art museum instead of a movie; or on a midnight stroll on the beach instead of to abarfor a nightcap.

6 November 26,2008. The attack on Mumbai.
Few attacks come unannounced, whether in the battlefield, at work or in your own backyard.

7 DDay: 15th August, 1947. If the Brits had won, we’d probably still be eating saltless food. History has a series of pivot points. We bet your own life has had a few. Learn from them and it’ll be easier to spot the next one coming.

9 Your date of birth. More specifically, your sign. Think astrology is psychobabble? An increasingly large number of attractive women don’t. So indulge them. On a first date, the drone of rigorous skepticism is about as sexy as a dentist’s drill.

9 The expiration dates for your driver’s license, health insurance and passport. Red tape isn’t to be tussled with. To defuse each of these bureaucratic landmines, you’ll spend years on hold and standing in endless lines when you could be fully covered for car-wreck injuries in Switzerland.

10 Your first road trip to Lehwiththe guys. That macho feeling of absolute freedom as you burnt the rubber on rough terrains is the stuff fst friendships are made of.

11 January,2000:The Y2K scare. Two dropped digits plunged cyberspace into chaos, resulting in premature missile launches, a global transportation shutdown and a worldwide economic mekdown. Oh, wait a minute. No, they didn’t. So the next time a coworker or your pesky neighbour starts hoarding drinking water and stockpiling munitions because the end is near—heard about the 2012 apocalypse lately?—abuse him verbally.