Take her outside

Take her outside Take her outside THE MEASURE OF A SUCCESSFUL DATE IS

usually the good-night kiss. And while we’re all for good-night kisses, if you want to really win her over, you have to think longer term: Will this experience create great memories for her?

An awesome date—the kind that stays lodged in her brain and makes her brag to her friends—pays major dividends. “One of the benefits of creating shared memories is that they can increase arousal all by themselves,” says Timothy Loving, Ph.D., an assistant professor in the department of human development and family sciences at the University of Texas at Austin.

In a 2009 study, Loving found that when women were asked to recall what they liked to do with their partners on dates, they showed increased physiological arousal, as evidenced by cortisol levels in their saliva. In other words, just thinking about last weekend’s great date can turn her on again. So we’ve lined up five dates guaranteed to make her gush. In addition to breaking the standard dinner-and-a-movie rut, each will help you bond in crucial ways. So follow our instructions, then grab your gal. Memories await.

The way to her heart might just be down an aerial rope slide. Originally designed for studying tropical rain forests, ziplines and canopy tours—which involve hiking up a mountain and then flinging yourself down an inclined cable in a harness at up to 65mph— have been popping up all over the country. (Find one near you at canopy-tours.com.) When it’s go time in the treetops, forget the ladies-first maxim and bravely offer to lead the way, explaining that you’ll be waiting to catch her at the bottom. You’ll be the first person she sees—and shares her adrenaline rush with—when she lands.

Bonding power You’ll benefit from the magic of a little notion social scientists call “excitation transfer.” Research shows that exciting or even scary activities have the power to boost romantic attraction between men and women who’ve just met. In such scenarios. we misattribute the reason for our thrill. “You think, ‘Why am I feeling this? Well, it must be that I’m with this exciting person: – says Arthur Aron, Ph.D., head of the Interpersonal Relationships Lab at SUNY Stony Brook University.

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