Your good looks and charm may persuade her to take the plunge, but the real trick is getting her to come back for more. Here’s how to guarantee yourself a replay
1) What’s your weekly exercise regime?
Contrary to intuition, donning a pair of less-than-fetching running shorts increases your sex appeal. According to research at Colorado State University, moderate 30-minute runs three times a week for a month will get you panting in more ways than one. Of the study’s 3,000 participants, 75 per cent reported a higher sex drive, 72 per cent were “more sexually responsive” and over 60 per cent reported they could go for another lap around the bedroom within 10 minutes. But don’t overdo it. More than five hours a week can lead to ‘overtraining ‘ where your testosterone levels, along with your mojo, drop by up to a third. Equally, never assume that sex is enough of a workout in itself. A 70kg man burns just 62 calories through 10 minutes of carnal cardio. says research at Carolina University. That means you’ll have to do three repeat performances justto justity a pint of Foster’s. You up for that, big guy?
2) How do you set the scene for sex?
A night in with a DVD just got interesting. Copenhagen University researchers found that women who watch X-rated films show higher levels of pleasure- related endorphins lastingfor upto two hours. If your lady is not convinced by visuals, try something aural,though this isn’tthe momentforsensitive Bob Dylan rarities. If the music is unfamiliar itcould slow seduction, accordingto research from the State University of New York, as you’ll both be distracted by it. Instead, go forsome familiar up-tempo tunes and you’ll be having more sex, sooner. Classic rock music (like The Eagles) can actually speed up her arousal levels, accordingto studyauthorGeorge Stefano. And setthe ball rollingwith achickentikka supper. “The protein in the meatwill naturally boost levels ofdopamine and norepinephrine, two chemicals in the brain that heighten sensitivityfor both of you during sex,” says Dr Sarah Brewer, author of Increase YourSex Drive. Tikka masala, darling?
3) What’s your foreplay strategy?
They might not be the first port of call on your curves cruise but her arms are the path to satisfaction. The journal Nature Neuroscience reports her body’s prime pleasure nerves are in greatest abundance under her forearms and the backs of her legs. Two minutes of gentle touching at 2-4cm persecond and she’ll melt. And don’t forget about first base when you’re scramblingforfourth. Lyon University biochemists discovered that male saliva has fourtimes the testosterone contentof women’s, makinglip service nature’s own aphrodisiac.
4) What’s your preferred position?
While any sex is good from your point of view, lighting herfuse requires careful consideration of how to lay the dynamite. “The vagina, urethra and clitoris all need to be stimulated for maximum chances of orgasm,” says neuroscientistGertHolstege, atthe UniversityofGroningen in the Netherlands. “The key is a combination of external and internal stimulation, best achieved bychangingsexual positions.” Startwith ‘the spider’. Face each otherwith her astride you. Pull her in close then both lie backwith your knees raised. ‘Compared to the missionary, itallowsadeeper, more intense stimulation, with less friction so you last longer,” says Mumbalbased sexologist DrPrakash Kothari. Then swap to the reverse cowgirl, she says, herridingyou but facing away. “ltcreates extra G-spot stimulation as she can tilt her pelvis for more or less contact, while you can gentlystroke the nerve hot-spot between her buttocks just above her bum.
5) What’syour post-coital strategy?
Rollingoverafter sex is like bad- mouthing a chef—you’re nevergoing to get seconds. Instead, seal your next helpingwitha kiss. Research atAlban\ University in New York found women are 80 per cent more likely to initiate post-romp kissing. “Men who make ar effort with kissing have been shown to be over 30 per cent more likely to have sex again,” says study author Gordon Gallup. Before your hands are requirec down below again, move to her back. A study in Biological Psychi atryshows massage after sex maintains the flow ofthefeel-good hormone oxytocin so she’ll orgasm easierthe second (andthird, and fourth…) time round. Just don’t spoil the vibe by making her orgasm the onlytopic of conversatio’study in the Journal of Sexual Medic found that stress about sexual performance decreases her arousal.