Go with the flow
“Flings let both of you retain your independence more than in a normal relationship,” says Indore-based sexologist Dr Mahesh Nawal. “If she really thinks it’s short”term, she won’t call you every day, won’t talk about the future as much and will make plans without you.” You, of course, should do the same.
Don’t be a Doormat
Speaking about going with the flow, don’t get drowned. Treating her nice is one thing but riding across to the other end of town to sympathise with her broken nail reeks of happily-ever-alter. If you’re
that sort of guy, then a flings Just not your thing. And she might just take advantage of that. “Watch out for contempt,” says Cosmopolitan editor and relationship expert Payal Pun. Does she snap at you unnecessarily and lace her words with sugar only for favours? If your necks snapping up and down, you’re caught in her net, you poor fish.
Set smart boundaries
If you harp on the expiration date—”Just so you know, this isn’t serious—your message will backfire. “No woman or man, wants to be reminded that you’re not in it to win it,” says Pun. Be a gentleman and tell her what you want clearly at the very start. Give her subtle signals that you’re flying solo: Go stag to a party you’d be expected to land up at as
a couple.
Limit Yourself
Even if you have high testosterone levels, keep your fling count limited. “Though you know that she is not ‘the one’, it doesn’t give you the right to put her in a rat race competing for your affections,’ says Dr Nawal. Being brutally honest about how many women you are seeing alongside might
not be the best tactic to use either. Keep it open, but not that open. Maybe her count is higher than yours? Ouch!
Go out with a hang
She’s leaving for another city or you’re moving on. Instead of letting the relationship fizzle or pulling away from her emotionally, charge through the end. “It gives you both a sense of closure and makes it easier to move on,” says Dr Nawal. “At the end of it all, remember you don’t have an obligation to stay ‘friends,” says Purl. If shes getting clingy, despite moving away—take it as a compliment that she still wants you, instead of getting irritated. Speak to her firmly about having moved on and then close the chapter. Irrespective of how good the chemistry was, she’ll move on, when not given any encouragement.