Sex caters to three dimensions — procreation, recreation and romance. While the former two are given much importance, sex for romance is often ignored.
Priya was depressed. Her husband Prem, who had relentlessly pursued, wooed and proposed undying love to her, neglected her after marriage. Earlier, there was a lot of kissing and petting. After marriage, he stopped saying ‘I love you’ and the passionate kisses and hugs had disappeared altogether. “Where did the love go?” she wondered.
“Love is an emotion.” It is also a ‘response’ to an emotion. Hence it’s a learned phenomenon. To quote psychologist, Leo Buscaglia — Love is trusting, accepting and believing, without guarantee. It is for mutual revealing and sharing. It is spontaneous and craves expression through joy, beauty, truth and tears. It lives for the moment.
Love should be expressed and should gratify your physical and emotional desires. A few factors that can affect your sexual intimacy are everyday tensions, pressures, health, fidelity issues etc. Here are tips to keep the romance alive.
- Don’t expect perfection.
- Be flexible.
- Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings, both in bed and emotionally.
- Never take your partner for granted.
Love does not have an auto-operative system. So work on keeping the romance alive and express your feelings physically through small, romantic gestures. No one thrives more than in the knowledge that he or she is loved and desired.